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Mother of the Year Goes to.... Not Me

Every morning I go to the gym to exercise. I love it because I have a lot of friends there (it's my adult interaction for the day...hahah...but seriously...), endorphins are released, I feel powerful and strong....etc. Fast forward to about 10 minutes after I arrive home.

Kids are fighting over who grabbed the box of cereal first.

Tears are rolling down cheeks from, "Cameron looked at me in a mean way."

Fights are breaking out between who has to be the flippin' monkey in the middle...

You get the idea.

So pretty much all the good I do at 5:30 in the wee early morning hours gets completely undone. (Perhaps I should schedule my workouts to after the kids leave for school instead?)

Anyway, today was no different. The kids actually all got ready on their own really well without any fights. They had a good 20 minutes to kill before we had to leave for school. They decided to play a game (but not the blasted Monkey in the Middle game...No! No! I banned that game [and 'jinx&#…

Three Reasons Why I Blog

One of the reasons I keep my blogs is because I love writing. Not story-telling writing, or fictional writing, but rather about my life and the humor and lessons I learn from it. Writing is a good release for me--A release from my stress, my calling, my family obligations, my duties around the home, etc. A way to organize my thoughts without thinking about all of my to-do's for the rest of the day.

The other reason I blog is because I want my kids to be able to read about my thoughts and how I went through life. I think sometimes they think I'm perfect, and maybe this blog will be a real eye opener to them. lol. (Or maybe they don't think I'm perfect--in fact, now that we're finally entering the whole "pre-teen" years with Taylor, I'm almost 100% certain she thinks I'm completely imperfect lol).

But the last reason I blog, is because I have kind of a crazy dream that not many people know about. My dream is to publish a book some day using my life…

Tati's Talk/ Thoughts on "Social Media Fast"

I participated in the challenge Pres. Nelson extended...twice. 
A few months ago he challenged the youth of the church to take a break from it, and I had a desire to follow it as well. I was so impressed by how different I felt that I seriously contemplated if I should get back on social media at all.
Then this past General Conference, Pres. Nelson challenged the women of the church to do this as well. I was eager to do it again as I reflected on how good it felt the last time I had done it. This particular time it wasn't as hard for me to refrain from getting on social media. The first time I took the fast, I found myself mindlessly trying to click on the app where it used to be on my phone. It's crazy how that happens. 

Having a social media fast has helped me realize several things: I feel liberated. Literally free from the cares of the world. I am more focused on ME and MY family. I literally feel happier. Not only has this made a difference with myself, but it's made all …

Tati's Talk at YW in Excellence, "Goodbye Personal Progress, Hello New Youth Program!"

Thank you for coming to honor these incredible young women tonight. As we have served with the young women for the past six months, we have come to see the many talents and skills each of these beloved daughters of God possesses. What a great opportunity we have this night to be able to recognize all the good things these ladies are doing. As parents, you should be proud. You have raised some amazing young women.
It’s an exciting time to be in YW. We live in the latter days. We are living in the Dispensation of the Fulness of Times, in which the Lord has said: “… in the which I will gather together in one all things, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth.” (D&C 27:13.) He added, “For I deign to reveal unto my church things which have been kept hid from before the foundation of the world, things that pertain to the dispensation of the fulness of times.” (D&C 124:41.)  Today, we are witnessing the fulfillment of these prophesies in this dispensation as several n…

Tati's Talk, "Are we Not all Beggars"

Are We Not all Beggars Tatiana Southam
Introduce family, story of how we met Moved here 6 months ago. Became rusty waiting to speak in church
This time of year is always one of my favorites. I love seeing the good in people come out. I love seeing people conscientiously serving other people in need. Just from our ward alone, I’ve seen countless acts of charity: -people buy treats to help support the financial burden of a relative -people take in another family’s children as the mother had to leave occasionally -people supply dinners for a family who didn’t have time to prepare meals themselves -Neighbors take a friend on a walk around the neighborhood to relieve the parents for a short time -the youth singing uplifting songs to ward members, and cleaning up yards for those who needed assistance
-People waving at me every time I pass through the neighborhood.  -People raking the leaves of their neighbors, even though they were also in need of help -People plowing the driveways and sidewa…

Tati's Talk, "YW Role in Gathering Israel"

I recently spoke again in church for Stake Conference. I spoke at the general session a couple of years ago in Tooele when I was the Stake YW President, but this time I spoke at the Ward Council Training early morning on Sunday.

My talk went well. I remember when Pres. Allred had messaged me the week prior asking me to meet with him that I starting freaking out thinking I was getting a new calling. When I looked at the church calendar, however, I saw Stake Conference on the agenda and knew it had to be related. I felt relieved (ironically considering most people are scared to speak in church, let alone Stake Conference). I feel really grateful for the way Heavenly Father has molded and shaped me into who I am today. Most people are surprised to learn that I used to be a very shy kid. It's true. It wasn't until I was in the 4th grade that I learned I could gain good attention by my sarcasm and quick-witted remarks. Since then, I've loved the spotlight. (Okay, maybe "lov…

Zucchini Bread and a Prompting

Two weeks ago our bishop taught the 3rd hour for our 5th Sunday lesson. He shared a video from Elder Bednar that basically talked about how we shouldn't be paralyzed by wondering if it's the Spirit speaking to us, or if it's our own thoughts. He states that if it's a good thing, to just go and do it. The Spirit cannot work through us if we sit there contemplating who is telling us this thought. Just do good things, and the Spirit will direct you. (Link found on Youtube by clicking here.)

I've reflected a lot on that over the last couple weeks, and have already found it to be true. For the last couple of days, I've known about a neighbor (Jennifer Lund) two doors down who is having her mother-in-law move in with her. Her mother in law, Lynne, had a stroke a couple months ago and is paralyzed on her left side, so Jennifer and her family will be her caretakers. (Well I've written a lot of articles on caretaking for my job, so I know it's no easy task...)